Being a Team


Ok so you are in a committed relationship but you are both stubborn and you argue a lot. Although not all arguing is bad (and can be helpful) if you find yourselves arguing a lot, it may be time to reevaluate things!

Thinking that you are always right can harm your relationship. How often are things really so clear cut-an absolute right and wrong? Not that often! Many things are up to interpretation and our personal perspective. We see the world through our lens and we believe that is the "right" way, when really it is our lens of the world.

If you are in a relationship (and you are stubborn) it's best to try and and see the other's point of view, and not be overly committed to how you see things. If you are willing to see that you are TEAM and you want a win win situation, the relationship becomes much easier and you become closer!

You really are a team and what is best for the team may not what you think is right. If one person wins most of the time, the other feels defeated. So strive for a win win situation- not always possible, but it is often possible.

When we see that we are part of a team we relax on our need to be right and doors open for compromise, which is the hallmark of a healthy relationship- a give and take where everyone feels heard and valued.

What is in the best interests of your team?

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