Seeking Safety
We all seek safety in our lives; safety from physical harm and emotional harm. We all know for the most part how to keep ourselves physically safe; wear seat belts, lock your doors, take precautions with power equipment, look before you cross the street, wear helmets, etc. Where we struggle is keeping ourselves emotionally safe, and whether that should even be a goal of ours. If we have been seriously emotionally wounded in our lives, we strongly seek emotional safety and I think it is necessary for us to find emotional safety in order to heal our wounds. Emotional safety calms our brain and body down enough to deal with the wounding that has occurred. Having safe relationships is INVALUABLE to our healing. But as we get stronger and our brains and bodies have calmed down, we can start to take more emotional risks and not longer need to always seek out emotional safety. We get stronger inside, can tolerate more unsettledness inside of us and outside of us. We no longer