Outing our son.
We outed our son before he outed himself. By the time he was in middle school, my husband and I had strong inklings that he was gay, but it took a while for our son to come to that conclusion and longer to feel strong enough to share it with others outside our immediate family. It was a scary time for all of us. We had moved to Wisconsin from Virginia at the end of his 4th grade year, and he had a difficult time fitting in at the cliquish neighborhood elementary school. By the beginning of middle school he felt so left out and picked on that we almost pulled him out of school completely. But he stuck it out for a few more weeks, made some friends and felt better. During 7th grade, his dad and I asked him if he was gay, and let him know that it was absolutely OK to be gay. At the time, he thought he was bi-sexual. It can take a while to figure our sexuality out, especially if we are not mainstream. During this time he also became gorgeous- tall, muscular, handsome and a lot of girls lik...