So you feel insecure....

It doesn't feel very good does it? Feeling insecure at times is a universal experience, and it is really good that you can acknowledge that insecure is what you are feeling! Because that's more than half the battle- recognizing your true feelings.

So often we hide feeling insecure by being angry at our significant other by accusing them of things that may or not be accurate. It is usually much easier to acknowledge being angry than it is to admit (even just to ourselves) that what is before the anger is insecurity. Our anger masks our true feelings. Because when we say we feel insecure, that means we are vulnerable. We don't really feel too vulnerable when we are angry.

Being vulnerable to another is difficult. And the benefits are amazing! I have seen people go from chronic insecurity in a relationship, to having those insecure feelings almost vanish overnight by recognizing and talking about them to their partner! Now that is some powerful medicine! Does it always work that easily? No, but your insecure feelings will almost always diminish by recognizing and talking about them without the anger


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Work on not letting your anger get in the way of true intimacy. Intimacy involves vulnerability. And yes, you have been hurt before, and maybe life has taught you not to trust. We all have wounds and we hurt each other.

So today, ask yourself- I feel insecure about.............

Share it with someone you do trust. Then work up to sharing it with your partner in a non defensive, non angry, non accusing way! More on that later.......